There is a certain very interesting book contributed to by neuroscientists Amir Levine and Rachel Heller entitled "Attached. The New Science Of Adult Attachment And How It Can Help You Find - And Keep - Love". The human brain is programmed to seek and need to receive support from others. As it turns out, we need to feel a sense of security in the bonds we form, whether they are formed in the context of friendship, family, or love.

While many of us may not like the term used next, there is a clear record at the neural level that humans are emotionally dependent. This does not mean, however, that we need to see this dependence as entrapment by another person or group of people. We are talking about our need to be loved, to be respected, and to feel that we can count on another person.

Let those who do not deserve you lose you

In the book cited earlier, neuroscientists Amir Levine and Rachel Heller point out that emotionally immature people tend to treat love like a game. They have a profile of people who respond only to what the moment brings, to the immediate reward, and to the opportunity to satisfy their res.

Those who truly love don't play games

We all know very well that the success of a relationship depends on many factors. One of them is undoubtedly the ability to support each other and the ability to accept help. If one of these skills fails and the needs of the partner are pushed to the background, the relationship begins to weaken and lose its value.

Let the one who uses love in foul play lose you

"I felt the fear of losing someone special and in the end I lost, but I survived! And I'm still alive!"

We should not forget that emotional maturity is also defined by our ability to observe reality, as well as by our ability to behave appropriately in certain situations.

Attached. The New Science Of Adullt Attachment And How It Can Help You Find – And Keep – Love

Attached.

“Over a decade after its publication, one book on dating has people firmly in its grip.” —The New York Times We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle. Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:    • Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back    • Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.    • Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. Attached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

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Dr Amir Levine, MD, is an adult, child and adolescent psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He has been conducting neuroscience research at Columbia University, New York, for several years under the mentorship of Nobel Prize laureate Eric Kandel.

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Rachel Heller is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Rachel Heller has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Rachel Heller's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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