Ismena W.'s Key Ideas from Attached
by Amir Levine, Rachel Heller

While many of us may not like the term used next, there is a clear record at the neural level that humans are emotionally dependent. This does not mean, however, that we need to see this dependence as entrapment by another person or group of people. We are talking about our need to be loved, to be respected, and to feel that we can count on another person.

We all know very well that the success of a relationship depends on many factors. One of them is undoubtedly the ability to support each other and the ability to accept help. If one of these skills fails and the needs of the partner are pushed to the background, the relationship begins to weaken and lose its value.

In the book cited earlier, neuroscientists Amir Levine and Rachel Heller point out that emotionally immature people tend to treat love like a game. They have a profile of people who respond only to what the moment brings, to the immediate reward, and to the opportunity to satisfy their res.

We should not forget that emotional maturity is also defined by our ability to observe reality, as well as by our ability to behave appropriately in certain situations.