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You Are Your Own Jailer
Freedom involves responsibility.
And there’s a part in most of us that finds responsibility frightening.
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"The inability to say no is largely about approval-seeking. The inability to say yes is more about lack of trust in oneself."
LORI GOTTLIEB
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“We tend to think that the future happens later, but we're creating it in our minds every day. When the present falls apart, so does the future we had associated with it. And having the future taken away is the mother of all plot twists. But if we spend the present try...
LORI GOTTLIEB
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Ultracrepidarianism
This is the habit of giving opinions and advice on matters outside of one’s knowledge or competence.
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"The things we protest against the most are often the very things we need to look at."
LORI GOTTLIEB
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On Pain
There’s no hierarchy of pain. Suffering shouldn’t be ranked because pain isn’t a contest.
You can’t get through your pain by diminishing it, you get through it by accepting it and figuring out what to do with it.
You can’t change what you’re denying or diminishing
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Counseling Vs Therapy
- Counseling is getting advice.
- Therapy is acquiring more self-understanding.
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"But part of getting to know yourself is to unknow yourself—to let go of the limiting stories you’ve told yourself about who you are so that you aren’t trapped by them, so you can live your life and not the story you’ve been telling yourself about your life."
LORI GOTTLIEB
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"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom."
LORI GOTTLIEB
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"Too many parents make life hard for their children by trying, too zealously, to make it easy for them."
JOHANN WOLFGANG VON GOETHE
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Numbness
Numbness is in the absence of feelings.
It’s a response to being overwhelmed with too many feelings.
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A Metaphor For Therapy
To people, going into the depths of their thoughts and feelings it’s like going into a dark alley and they don’t want to go there alone.
People come to therapy to have someone to go there with.
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"Almost" Is Always The Hardest
Many people avoid trying for what they really want in life because it’s more painful to get close to the goal but not achieve it than not to have taken the chance in the first place.
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Collective Unconscious
It refers to the part of the mind that holds ancestral memory, or experience that is common to all humankind.
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On Therapy
- A therapeutic alliance is a trust that is needed before work can be done. Patients need to feel heard and understood.
- But therapy work is an intricate dance between support and confrontation.
- Therapists help patients see themselves better an...
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