3. I don't need to over-explain: I remember the first... - Deepstash

3. I don't need to over-explain: I remember the first time I declined doing something without a long winded excuse. It felt so vulnerable and off to me. Why? I believed there had to be a reason for me to not do something. This is how codependency shows up.

4. Healthy people respect your limits: healthy people understand boundaries and don't pressure, guilt, or shame you for not doing something.

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I can’t tell you how much this summarises my entire life and way of thinking … finally started to be aware that this is not good for myself and starting to change … hard every day

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