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How To Deal With Certain People

How To Deal With Certain People

Forgive Your Enemies: Doing your enemies bad hurts you more than it hurts them. Don’t waste time thinking about people you don’t like.

Ungrateful people: Don’t be angry about ungrateful people. Due to human nature, people are naturally ungrateful. Don’t give to receive gratitude but because of inner joy. Be prepared for ungratefulness so you don’t have to be angry about it. Gratitude is an attitude that needs to be cultivated, you should be teaching it to children.

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DR ISRAEL BRAM

“The biggest and most effective healing powers are faith, sleep, music and laughter. Believe in god, learn how to sleep, love good music and see all the odd sides of life – then you will be healthy and happy.”

DR ISRAEL BRAM

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WILLIAM JAMES

"Be willing to have it so. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune."

WILLIAM JAMES

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MARCUS AURELIUS

“Our life is what our thoughts make it.”

MARCUS AURELIUS

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ELSIE MACCORMICK

“When we stop fighting the inevitable, we release energy which enables us to create a richer life”

ELSIE MACCORMICK

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HERBERT E. HAWKES

“If a person will devote their time to securing facts in an impartial, objective way, their worries will usually evaporate in the light of knowledge”

HERBERT E. HAWKES

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ALFRED ADLER

“You can be cured in fourteen days if you follow this prescription. Try to think every day how you can please someone.”

ALFRED ADLER

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ALFRED ADLER

“Never do something you don’t want to do.”

ALFRED ADLER

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PLATO

“The biggest misconception of all doctors lies in wanting to heal the body without thinking of the spirit. Body and spirit are one and shouldn’t be treated separately.”

PLATO

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DR JOSEPH F. MONTAGUE

“70% of all people that go to the doctor could heal themselves by getting rid of their anxiety and worries.”

DR JOSEPH F. MONTAGUE

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When Life Gives You A Lemon, Make Lemonade

When Life Gives You A Lemon, Make Lemonade

Reasons why should try again after failing:

  • Maybe you achieve your goal this time.
  • Even if you fail again, at least you looked ahead instead of backwards. You were optimistic and full of energy.

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DALE CARNEGIE

“We have to think about our problems, but not worry about them. [...] Worrying means recognising where the problem lies and then doing something to sort it out. Worrying means going round in circles in despair and hopelessness.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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DALE CARNEGIE

“There is only one way on God's green earth to benefit from the past - if we objectively analyse the mistakes made, learn from them and then forget them.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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Some More Tips

Some More Tips

  • Read in history books because you will see your problems from a distance and realise that they are tiny in comparison to eternity.
  • See your problems in a bigger context: In two months it won’t even matter.
  • Laugh about your worries.
  • Be...

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DALE CARNEGIE

“The difference between good thinking and bad thinking is this: good thinking deals with causes and effects and leads to logical, constructive planning; bad thinking frequently leads to tension and nervous breakdowns”

DALE CARNEGIE

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DALE CARNEGIE

“There is only one way to get love - if any: you have to stop demanding it and start giving love without any hope of getting anything in return."

DALE CARNEGIE

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Acceptance

Acceptance

Accept the things you can’t change. Don’t worry about small, unimportant things.

Set a limit to your worries:         

  1. How important is the thing I am worried about?
  2. At which point should I set a limit to my worries?
  3. How ...

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DR ALEX CARRIER

“Those who don’t know how to deal with anxiety and worries die earlier.”

DR ALEX CARRIER

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WILLIAM BOLITHO

 “The most important thing in life is not to capitalize on your gains. Any fool can do that. The really important thing is to profit from your losses. That requires intelligence; and it makes the difference between a man of sense and a fool.”

WILLIAM BOLITHO

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EMERSON

“Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.”

EMERSON

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LOGAN PEARSALL SMITH

“There are two things to aim at in life: first, to get what you want, and after that to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind achieve the second.”

LOGAN PEARSALL SMITH

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CHARLES KETTERING

“A problem well stated is a problem half-solved.”

CHARLES KETTERING

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DALE CARNEGIE

The best possible way to prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intelligence, with all your enthusiasm, on doing today’s work superbly today. That is the only possible way you can prepare for the future.

DALE CARNEGIE

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WILLIAM JAMES

“Faith is one of the forces by which men live, and the total absence of it means collapse.”

WILLIAM JAMES

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MICHEL DE MONTAIGNE

“A man is not hurt so much by what happens, as by his opinion of what happens.”

MICHEL DE MONTAIGNE

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FRED FULLER SHEDD

“Of course, you can’t saw sawdust! It’s already sawed! And it’s the same with the past. When you start worrying about things that are over and done with, you’re merely trying to saw sawdust.”

FRED FULLER SHEDD

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DALE CARNEGIE

“Don't worry about insomnia. It does far more damage than the actual lack of sleep.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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DALE CARNEGIE

“It is claimed that almost all our fears and worries, our unhappiness, are caused by our imagination and have nothing to do with reality.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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DALE CARNEGIE

“Every day is a new day to a wise man.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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DALE CARNEGIE

“I am deeply convinced that our peace of mind and the joy we get out of living depends not on where we are, or what we have, or who we are, but solely on our mental attitude.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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WILLIAM JAMES

“Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not. Therefore, the ideal and conscious way to cheerfulness - when you have lost it - is t...

WILLIAM JAMES

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THOMAS CARLYLE

“Our main task is not to see what lies in the vague distance, but only to do what is closest.”

THOMAS CARLYLE

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DALE CARNEGIE

“He was so busy with positive things that he had no time or inclination to think about the past.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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SHAKESPEARE

“Wise men do not sit idly by and moan about what they have lost, but cheerfully strive to repair the damage.”

SHAKESPEARE

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DALE CARNEGIE

“Did [Jack Dempsey] constantly admonish himself not to ruminate on the past? No, that would only have forced him to think about past problems. Rather, he accepted his defeat, came to terms with it and concentrated on his future.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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DALE CARNEGIE

“Think and act cheerfully, then you will also feel cheerful.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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HERBERT E. HAWKES

“Confusion and ambiguity are the main causes for anxiety.”

HERBERT E. HAWKES

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BENJAMIN FRANKLIN

"When you are good to others you are best to yourself."

BENJAMIN FRANKLIN

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DALE CARNEGIE

“A feeling of security is particularly important for healthy sleep.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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MICHEL DE MONTAIGNE

“My life has been full of terrible misfortunes, most of which never happened.”

MICHEL DE MONTAIGNE

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ARTHUR SCHOPENHAUER

“We seldom think of what we have, but always of what we lack.”

ARTHUR SCHOPENHAUER

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EDDIE EAGAN

“Worries go when the movement comes.”

EDDIE EAGAN

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DALE CARNEGIE

“Do what you think is right in your heart - because you will be criticised anyway. You will be condemned if you do it and if you don't you will also be condemned.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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RUDYARD KIPLING

“I keep six honest serving-men, they taught me all I knew. Their names are What and Why and When. And How and Where and Who.”

RUDYARD KIPLING

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DALE CARNEGIE

“We only want to know the facts that justify our actions, that fit our wishful thinking and reinforce our prejudices.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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Questions To Reflect On

Questions To Reflect On

Do I tend to put of living in the present until later? Do I worry about the future? Am I thinking about the magical rose garden over the horizon?

Do I sometimes make the present difficult for myself because I regret things that happened in the past and that...

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Dealing With Criticism

Dealing With Criticism

Unfair critique is often a hidden compliment. Do the best you can and ignore all the hate you get for it.

However, you should also be taking your time to reflect on what you did so that you can learn from your mistakes and from your enemies...

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SAMUEL JOHNSON

“Gratitude is the fruit of great cultivation; you do not find it among gross people.”

SAMUEL JOHNSON

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Help Other People

Help Other People

Show empathy with the people around you and forget yourself. Do someone a favour, help them and make them smile! This is so effective because during the process of helping someone, you forget yourself and your problems.

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More Tips To Reduce Fatigue

More Tips To Reduce Fatigue

  • Using your brain does not make you tired but your negative attitude and feelings do.
  • Talk about what you are worried about.
  • Have a journal with inspirational quotes so that you can read it whenever you need it.
  • Don’t think about other people’s imperfections too much.

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Positive Thoughts

Positive Thoughts

Thoughts have a huge impact on our well-being. Here are a few ideas by Sibyl F. Partridge:

  • Happiness comes from within and has nothing to do with our circumstances.
  • Accept things as they are, be prepared and don’t force anything.
  • Take c...

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Tips For Work

Tips For Work

  • Put everything away from your desk that is not related with your current task.
  • Do things the moment you have to do them.
  • Do things in their order of importance.
  • Think and plan.
  • Solve problems and make decisions as soon as you can when you have all necessary in...

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DALE CARNEGIE

"When we have accepted the worst, we have nothing more to lose. And that automatically means – we have everything to gain!”

DALE CARNEGIE

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DALE CARNEGIE

“By talking to yourself every hour of the day, you can direct yourself to think thoughts of courage and happiness, thoughts of power and peace.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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Analyse Your Problems

Analyse Your Problems

Facts need to be analysed, otherwise they are useless. It is important to analyse them objectively while being aware of confirmation bias (= the tendency to look for information that confirm your original beliefs).

To be objective you can act as if you were...

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How To Eliminate Worries

How To Eliminate Worries

Be so busy that you don’t have time to be worried.

It is only possible to think one thought at a time – never two. Make sure that you think positive thoughts so you don’t have space for negative ones.

Nature hates vacuums and emptiness which is why an empty brain is a...

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The Negative Effects Of Worrying

The Negative Effects Of Worrying

Worrying and having anxiety have lots of negative impacts on your body. It is harder for us to concentrate and focus. In the long term it makes us age faster and can be the root cause for lots of diseases and illnesses.

 

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DALE CARNEGIE

“Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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DALE CARNEGIE

“Our thoughts make us who we are.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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EPICTETUS

“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.”

EPICTETUS

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WILLIAM JAMES

“You’re not what you think you are, but what you think, you are!”

WILLIAM JAMES

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DALE CARNEGIE

“Once a decision is carefully reached, act! Get busy carrying out your decision – and dismiss all anxiety of the outcome.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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ELBERT HUBBARD

“Every man is a damn fool for at least five minutes a day. Wisdom consists of not exceeding the limit.”

ELBERT HUBBARD

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Live Today

Live Today

We should be living in the present moment instead of living in the past or the future. Live one day after another. Divide your life into units of days.

Pretend as if every day was the first and the last day...

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DALE CARNEGIE

“When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness”

DALE CARNEGIE

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The Problem With Fatigue

The Problem With Fatigue

Fatigue is often a cause for worries and anxiety. Reduce it as much as you can.

Relax, sit and lay down as often as you can. Relax your entire body even while working and check yourself regularly: Am I making my work harder than it actually is by using musc...

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What To Do When You Can't Sleep

What To Do When You Can't Sleep

When you can’t sleep, get up, read a book and learn something. Pray, relax or do some hard work.

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Pray

Pray

Benefits of praying:

  • You express what you are worried about.
  • You can share your burden with someone. Even if you have no one to talk to, god is always there.
  • You are inspired to take action.

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Summary

Summary

  1. Divide Life Into Units Of Days: Live one day at a time.
  2. Think about the worst that could happen, accept it and try to mitigate it.
  3. Collect all facts, analyse them, make a decision and act on it.
  4. Think about the negat...

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Tips For Analysing

Tips For Analysing

Use these four steps:

  1. Collect data: What am I worried about? What is the problem
  2. Analyse it: What is the cause of the problem? What can I do about it?
  3. Make a decision: How do I decide?
  4. Act on it:

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How To Deal With Situations You Are Worried About

How To Deal With Situations You Are Worried About

This method by Willis Carrier helps you to stop worrying:

  1. Analyse the situation openly and honestly. Find out the worst that could happen.
  2. Accept the worst that could happen.
  3. Keep calm and use all your time and energy t...

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ANDRÉ MAUROIS

“Everything that is in agreement with our personal desires seems true. Everything that is not puts us into a rage.”

ANDRÉ MAUROIS

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DALE CARNEGIE

“Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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GEORGE BERNHARD SHAW

“The only way to avoid being miserable is not to have enough leisure to wonder whether you are happy or not.”

GEORGE BERNHARD SHAW

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Boredom

Boredom

Boredom is often the main cause for fatigue. Make your work fun and a challenge. Act as if you love what you are doing.

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DALE CARNEGIE

“When you devote yourself to a cause infinitely greater than yourself, it is a sure way of being able to forgive your enemies and forget them. Insults and hostilities become totally unimportant, because you think only of your great goal and become insensitive to everything else.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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EDWARD LEE THORNDIKE

“One of the chief causes of fatigue is boredom.”

EDWARD LEE THORNDIKE

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DALE CARNEGIE

“One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon – instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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DALE CARNEGIE

“As the years went by, I gradually discovered that ninety-nine per cent of the things I worried about never happened.”

DALE CARNEGIE

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K. T. KELLER

“If I am faced with a problem and can do something, I do something. If I can't do anything, I just forget about it.”

K. T. KELLER

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DUKE BRAID

“If you spent even half the time you are now wasting on brooding to solve your problems, you would no longer have any. Worrying is just a bad habit.”

DUKE BRAID

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sonnixo

Psychology student with a passion for learning and developing as a person.

Dale Carnegie shares how to finally stop worrying and start living using the practical tips he collected from various people from all over the world. Please note that I read the book in German, which is why some quotes might differ from the English version.

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