Change from “I want” to “I like to listen” - Deepstash

Change from “I want” to “I like to listen”

The controlling partner often says things like, “I want XYZ,” for example, “I want you to do a job.” This conversation style eliminates the feeling of the other person.

You can transform your conversation by just replacing “I want” with “I like to listen.” For instance “I like to listen to your point of view about doing a job” In the latter one, you are saying that you are interested in it, but along with it you are also asking them about their opinion.

By doing so, you both would reach the mutual decision instead of a decision being imposed by one partner.

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