If you feel contempt and inauthenticity doing something merely to maintain superficial order and expectations, pause and seriously reconsider.<ul><li>Minor moral transgressions snowball when left unaddressed. Listen to your conscience.</li><li>Refuse what you know to be wrong.</li><li>Speak truth.</li></ul>

Refusing What You Hate

<ul><li>Consciously plan enjoyable activities to nurture romance, fun, intimacy, and deep trust in a long-term relationship.</li><li>Dishonesty and poor communication erode foundations.</li><li>Protect your shared journey through openness. Invest when apart to sustain when together.</li></ul>

Maintaining Relationship Romance

<ul><li>Notice where responsibility has been shirked and take it upon yourself to set things right instead of blaming others.</li><li>Step up to address problems rather than carping from the sidelines.</li><li>Approach issues needing leadership with the desire to make things better through your efforts.</li></ul>

Noticing Abdicated Responsibility 


The quintessential source of positive emotion is taking responsibility - defining goals and projects, then making progress.Turn and confront the difficulties of the future rather than hiding; reduce suffering.Stand up straight with your shoulders back and enjoy the journey.Where responsibility is abdicated, there is opportunity.

Taking Responsibility  

Suffering is inevitable in our imperfect world. But you can choose to be grateful anyway. Courageously give thanks even in the midst of life's catastrophes; do not become bitter.Suffering is in the mind. Find meaning through responsibility despite adversity.

Gratitude Despite Suffering


Art expands vision, cultivates the soul, and connects us to the transcendent. Making something beautiful is intrinsically meaningful, not just a means to an end.Don't become so task-driven that you lose touch with beauty and degrade into soulless cynicism. What we aim at determines what we perceive.

Appreciating Beauty  

<ul><li>Unresolved, unprocessed painful memories from your past disrupt your present self.</li><li>Carefully deconstruct those memories to understand them, then integrate them into your story.</li><li>This frees you from lingering pain and anger.</li><li>Old ghosts must be confronted to move forward.</li></ul>

Integrating Painful Memories

<ul><li>Don't hide unwanted emotions, flaws, and unsavory motivations in a fog of willful blindness.</li><li>Have courage to look unflinchingly inside at your capacity for malevolence alongside good.</li><li>Integrate your full self through radical truth and self-understanding.</li><li>What you most wish to hide from yourself holds key truths.</li></ul>

Confronting the Shadow

We have vast untapped potential within us beyond who we currently are.Consciously deciding who you want to become in your ideal form and then aiming single-mindedly at that gives life meaning and forward momentum.Trade complacency and routine for a voluntary transformation through rediscovering exploring your latent talents and rebirth.

Becoming Who You Could Be 

Aiming intensely at a precise goal or vision fuels you with meaning and drive. If you aim at nothing, you'll be plagued by distractions and drift through life.Decide what you want, plan, and work diligently. Imperfect action beats perfect indecision. Value conscious effort.

Working with Diligence

When you have something to say, silence is a lie.

If you don't say what you think then you kill your unborn self.

<ul><li>Understand that good and evil exist within all people, including yourself.</li><li>Maintain hope in human potential while accepting flaws realistically, not cynically.</li><li>Bitter resentment and blind arrogance breed hatred.</li><li>Integrate your full humanity compassionately.</li></ul>

Avoiding Resentment and Arrogance


Beware of resentful us-versus-them ideologies that distort truth. Maintain humility about your own flaws.The enemy is often biases within our own minds.Set your own house in perfect order before self-righteously criticizing others as the problem. Change begins from within.

Rejecting Ideology

 In Beyond Order, Jordan Peterson provides philosophical insights on taking responsibility to find meaning, confront suffering, and live an ethical life. He offers principles to counter chaos and develop character.

The inspirational sequel to 12 RULES FOR LIFE, which has sold over 5 million copies around the world - now in paperback In 12 Rules for Life, acclaimed public thinker and clinical psychologist Jordan B. Peterson offered an antidote to the chaos in our lives: eternal truths applied to modern anxieties. His insights have helped millions of readers and resonated powerfully around the world. Now in this long-awaited sequel, Peterson goes further, showing that part of life's meaning comes from reaching out into the domain beyond what we know, and adapting to an ever-transforming world. While an excess of chaos threatens us with uncertainty, an excess of order leads to a lack of curiosity and creative vitality. Beyond Order therefore calls on us to balance the two fundamental principles of reality - order and chaos - and reveals the profound meaning that can be found on the path that divides them. In times of instability and suffering, Peterson reminds us that there are sources of strength on which we can all draw: insights borrowed from psychology, philosophy, and humanity's greatest myths and stories. Drawing on the hard-won truths of ancient wisdom, as well as deeply personal lessons from his own life and clinical practice, Peterson offers twelve new principles to guide readers towards a more courageous, truthful and meaningful life.

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The companion volume to 12 Rules for Life offers further guidance on the perilous path of modern life.    In 12 Rules for Life, clinical psychologist and celebrated professor at Harvard and the University of Toronto Dr. Jordan B. Peterson helped millions of readers impose order on the chaos of their lives. Now, in this bold sequel, Peterson delivers twelve more lifesaving principles for resisting the exhausting toll that our desire to order the world inevitably takes.   In a time when the human will increasingly imposes itself over every sphere of life—from our social structures to our emotional states—Peterson warns that too much security is dangerous. What’s more, he offers strategies for overcoming the cultural, scientific, and psychological forces causing us to tend toward tyranny, and teaches us how to rely instead on our instinct to find meaning and purpose, even—and especially—when we find ourselves powerless.   While chaos, in excess, threatens us with instability and anxiety, unchecked order can petrify us into submission. Beyond Order provides a call to balance these two fundamental principles of reality itself, and guides us along the straight and narrow path that divides them.

Jordan Bernt Peterson is a Canadian psychologist, author, and media commentator. He began to receive widespread attention in the late 2010s for his views on cultural and political issues, often described as conservative. Peterson has described himself as a classic British liberal and a traditionalist.

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