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No Distractions, No Setbacks
Truth is, we will have to deal with people in our daily lives who may provoke us from time to time. But this doesn't mean we have to indulge ourselves and respond to such situations by losing our self-control because you have work to do. They want you to get upset. If you end up responding to every attack, then, as Lincoln said, you might as well admit defeat right now. You may never get any work done. You'll certainly never be happy. And they'll have won.
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Importance of Fighting Provocation
The author explained how fighting against provocation in our daily lives is important to keep our minds calm and make decisions for our benefit.
An example is given of Arthur Ashe's father, who worked as a driver for a wealthy Jewish man named William Thalhimer, visiting ...
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Thalhimer's Tranquil Triumph in Land Purchase
On their way back home, Ashe's father, while driving, couldn't resist asking Thalhimer how he could remain so calm despite constant provocation. Thalhimer replied, "I came here to purchase that piece of land, and I got that piece of land. It belongs to me now, not to him. That man can go on cursi...
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Thalhimer's Remarkable Composure in Negotiation
Throughout the negotiation, Thalhimer was insulted, condescended to, and bullied by a man who seemed particularly disgusted at the thought of doing business with a Jew. However, Thalhimer remained surprisingly quiet and calm throughout all the provocation he faced during the entire negotiation pr...
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Remember always: As wrong as they are, as annoying as it is, it takes two for a real conflict to happen. As the stoics said, when we are offended, when we fight, we are complicit. We have chosen to engage. We have traded self-control for self-indulgence. We allowed our...
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Sometimes It Helps To Be A Little Deaf.
After any provocation, with the distance offered by the passage of time, any rational person can appreciate the calmness and self-control shown by Thalhimer. It would be fantastic if all this with Thalhimer hadn't happened. If no one was ever subjected to slurs or discrimination, if there were no...
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It's the easiest thing in the world to respond to intemperance with intemperance. We have to remember: Someone else's lack of self - control is not a justification for abandoning our own. Nor is it a good look or a recipe for success and achievement.
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There will always be people around us who will end up provoking us for no reason, just to get a response out of us, making us lose our self - control. Believe it or not this can greatly hamper our productivity and concentration we put in our daily tasks and learning how to handle ourself against provocation can help us becoming better versions of ourselves.
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3. Blocking Distractions
Our generation is the most distracted one to date. We have so many things to get distracted with that focusing on what’s important has become difficult and getting distracted has become easy.
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- Sending and replying to email feels like work, but in reality, it is pseudo-work. Do not be available on email and chat all the time, setting aside time-blocks in a day.
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Say No To Everything
To attain next level, you have to only do things that push you towards it, and say a blanket ‘no’ to almost everything else. You cannot ride your cart in three different directions at the same time.
Most people around us are after our attention, our time and our money. The...
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