YOUR NEXT FIVE MOVES.

• Most of us learn to base our self-worth on comparisons and competition. We think about succeeding in terms of someone else failing—if I win, you lose; or if you win, I lose. Life becomes a zero-sum game. We all play the game, but how much fun is it really?

• Win-win sees life as a

If you've won the first handful of points or games, well done, but the match isn't over until you win two or three sets. Momentum can change on a dime - your opponent is adjusting their game as much as you are to see what is effective.

You must stay engaged in your performance regardless...

We are all in competition, even if we prefer to discount it. Our achievements are only evident relative to others. You swam further, dance better, or got more Facebook Likes. 

We should recognize that there is competition going on. People interview to win jobs. And the best...