If people speak negatively about themselves and are continually bringing themselves down, it doesn't take long before we are agreeing with them. When we bring ourselves down, our self-esteem falls lower and lower. Instead, when you say positive things about yourself, you increase your self-respect and so others treat you with respect, which in turn increases your self-esteem.

Tip #1: Say Positive Things about Yourself

We are creatures of the earth, and that is where our roots lie. Sometimes we forget our true beginnings and then we become nervous, stressed, and afraid.

Tip #30: Ground Yourself

Spend a day listening to everyone you meet rather than talking to them.

Tip #29: Listen for a Day

Our body language reflects what we are feeling. If we look more assertive, we feel more assertive and others will respond to our new feelings of self-respect.

Tip #39: Watch Your Body Language

We can not change the weather. Don't allow yourself to become victimized by something that you can not change. This is a classic case of self-victimization.

Tip #17: Never Mind the Weather

We can only get what we want if we ask for what we want. Start saying exactly what you mean and asking for what you want, instead of just giving an ambiguous code.

Tip #15: Say What You Mean

Regular exercise is a great self-esteem booster and is probably one of the easiest ways to gain confidence in our bodies and our abilities.

Tip #33: Start Some Physical Exercise

Reach for the stars, take a risk, be courageous and act. Your self-esteem will rise in direct proportion to the personal risks that you are prepared to take.

Tip #51: Start Today to Make Your Dreams Come True

You really can "get away from it all" and come back feeling refreshed without anyone ever knowing that you left.

Tip #50: Go on Holiday

Do you ever feel you are being taken for granted by people? This might be because you are doing things that you really don't want to but you just can't say 'no'.You are not a victim with a low self-esteem unless you are choosing to be one.

Tip #7: Stop Being a Victim

When we are low in self-esteem, we are inclined to take  ourselves for too seriously.

Tip #55: Do the "You Can't Make Me" Swing

Why can one person create new directions for her/himself whilst another always seems to be the victim of circumstances?

Tip #31: Make Something Happen

Instead of saying, "I've got a problem." Say, "How can I face this challenge?"

Tip #28: Replace the Word 'Problem' with the Word Challenge

Protect your positive feelings and self-esteem and stay away from grumpy people.

Tip #3: Stay Away from Grumpy People

Remember that if you are allowing yourself to feel guilt, you will be low in self-esteem.

Tip #43: Let Go of Guilt

You are feeling totally protected. You know that nothing and no one can harm you when you are inside your beautiful bubble.

Tip #56: Step into a Bubble

No matter how depressed you feel, there will always be something that you can appreciate. Do and look for it! Find it!

Tip #46: Make an Appreciation List

Excessive 'doing' can lead us to feel that we are running around a hamster's wheel and that we can not get off.

Tip #47: Learn to Be

Negativity breeds depression and low energy levels. Positivity brings interest, motivation, and the power to make changes.

Tip #48: Focus on Your Strengths

If we are low it feels impossible to believe that we really are special, worthy, and lovable. But of course it is always true.

Tip #58: Make a List of Positive Affirmations

Think of something that you need to do but you keep putting off for some reason. Make a list of these jobs. Now choose one thing on the list and do it!When we know that we have things to do but keep finding excuses not to do them, we begin to lose our self-respect.We can spend much more energy thinking about doing something and then not doing it and then not liking ourselves for not doing it than it takes to actually do it.

Tip #10: Do What You've Got to Do

Very often we allow ourselves to become worked up about something that really doesn't matter.

Tip #13: Ask Yourself 'Does it Really Matter?'

Never doubt that you are progressing in your quest for self-esteem and know that all the love and support you need will always be with you.

Tip #60: Congratulate Yourself

Your desire to make the best use of your time depends upon how much you value it.

Tip #25: Manage Your Time

The person you finally scream at has usually had absolutely nothing to do with the small stress-inducing items that have built up to create your volcano of anger.Let go of stress as quickly as you can.

Tip #27: Scream Your Head Off

Look in the mirror, look deeply into your own eyes and tell yourself how much you love and value yourself.

Tip #32: Look in the Mirror

<ul><li>If you feel that you have behaved badly or made a serious mistake, then apologize and try to put the situation right.</li><li>When you have done the best you can, that is indeed the best you can do.</li></ul>

Tip #20: Stop Blaming Yourself

The state of forgiveness increases self-esteem.Forgiveness doesn't mean that we think that it's OK for anybody to do anything to us. Forgiveness is all about letting go.

Tip #34: Forgive Someone

It's amazing how quickly our interest in life can be recaptured when we encourage ourselves to be creative.

Tip #37: Create Something

We teach people they way we want them to treat us. This means that if people are using you as a doormat, then this is because you have let them do so.

Tip #57: Be Assertive

We are built for mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual activity. Creativity and high self-esteem depend upon the balance of these activities.

Tip #44: Balance Yourself

Many people with low confidence levels actually feel threatened by people who appear to be successful and so choose to spend time with people who are in an even worse situation than themselves. Success attracts success, just as negativity attracts negativity.

Tip #21: Associate with Successful People

We can all look back and regret our actions but we can not change the past.<ul><li>Stop blaming yourself.</li><li>Let go of the past.</li><li>Look forward towards a positive future.</li></ul>

Tip #6: Look Forward and Not Back

Many of us live a fast-paced lifestyle surrounded by the gadgets of modern technology. Take time to appreciate the wonders of nature.

Tip #24: get in Touch with Nature

'No' is such a small word, but it seems to be one of the hardest words for us to use. Practice saying 'no'. Whenever you are feeling victimized, you are in low self-esteem and you need to say 'no' to somebody.

Tip #42: Say 'No' When You Want to

Our clothes can be so much part of our image. Living in the past is not good for your own feelings of self-respect and self-worth.Clear out your closet and your mind of the old memories that hold you back.

Tip #8: Throw Out Your Old Clothes

Take your smile for a walk, practice it in the presence of others. The effect can be quite dramatic.

Tip #16: Smile and the World Smiles with You

What is it that you would like to do to change your life in some way? What are the risks involved?

Tip #18: Take a Risk

Who do you appreciate in your life? Have you told them? If not, then tell them.

Tip #19: Tell Someone How Much You Appreciate Them

We are so self-critical, we treat ourselves badly and can find so many things 'wrong' ourselves.<ul><li>Change our negative beliefs about ourselves by training our minds to believe positive things instead.</li><li>Make a positive affirmation for yourself.</li></ul>

Tip #5: Change Your Negative Self-Beliefs

Remember that you can change your life and you can create self-esteem, however impossible this may seem to you at the moment.

Tip #59: Break a Habit

Poor self-image means low self-esteem. Start to appreciate something about your appearance. Begin to admire an aspect of your appearance and you will gradually learn how to appreciate other things about yourself.

Tip #2: Change a Poor Self-Image

Looking for something new encourages our natural curiosity, inquisitiveness, and interest.

Tip #23: Look for a New Experience

We can encourage and empower our children by supporting them in a positive way.

Tip #53: Teach Your Children Well

Sometimes it can be very hard to decide whether your needs come before or after the needs of someone else.

Tip #22: Draw Your Line in the Sand

When we are low in self-esteem, this self-hate just takes us even lower. Be your own best friend. Talk to yourself the way you would to your very best friend.

Tip #4: Be Your Own Best Friend

Our feelings are important but sometimes we deny them because we are afraid of what people might think of us. You may be in a close relationship with someone who has denied their feelings for so long that they don't even know what they are feeling any more.

Tip #26: Give Yourself Some 'Feeling Checks'

Perhaps we are finding it difficult to accept the truth and so we deny it. Be true to yourself always.

Tip #38: Be True to Yourself

Self-esteem is the vital ingredient for success and happiness in our lives. When we lose it, our self-belief disappears and everything starts to go wrong.

Self-Esteem: Vital Ingredient for Success and Happiness

We often use our imagination in a negative way to support negative beliefs about ourselves.

Tip #52: Create Success for Yourself

Do you ever find that you just don't seem to have any time for yourself? Do something just for yourself.

Tip #9: Take Some Time Just for Yourself

Hidden feelings don't go away, they have to be hidden somewhere. We hide them inside ourselves and they cause us pain and misery and low self-esteem.

Tip #49: Let Go of Your Suppressed Feelings

When we speak badly about other people, we change the way that we feel abour ourselves.

Tip #41: Speak Well of Others

"The Basic Breathe" will help you to increase your composure, whatever your situation. If you can reduce your breaths to eight a minute or less, this will automatically increase your feelings of self-respect and self-control.

Tip #36: Breathe Deeply

Your intuition gives you important information and speaks to you through urges, feelings, and flashes of insight.

Tip #45: Trust Your Intuition

<ul><li>If you feel ill at ease using the phone or you have a particularly difficult call to make, do it standing up.</li><li>Smile into the phone.</li></ul>

Tip #11: Make an Assertive Phone Call

A negative attitude attracts negative people and events into your life. Expect the worst and it will happen; you will 'prove' your expectations to be true.Positivity attracts positivity. Expect the best and it will happen.

Tip #35: Expect the Best

We are more tan our minds. We are mind, body, and spirit. We can only really feel at peace when we are contacting the spiritual part of our nature.

Tip #14: Clear Your Mind

Choose a relatively short-term goal, write an action plan which will describe how you are to attain your goal, and then activate your plan. Action plans for the short term lead to self-confidence and self-esteem to plan for more ambitious and far-reaching goals.

Tip #40: Write Your Action Plan

You are unique. There never has and there never will be another person on the planet who is just like you. This makes you original and special.

Tip #54: Remember That You are Unique

If we eat things that unsuitable for us, we will not feel our best. Eating sensibly for a day is a great way to boost your self-esteem.

Tip #12: Eat Well for a Day

Increase your self-esteem by reading these tips.

Positive self-esteem is vital for success and happiness. Anything is possible when we're feeling good about ourselves, just as everything seems beyond our reach when our confidence is low. Lynda Field's 60 Tips for Self-Esteem shows you how it is possible to assert yourself each and every day. Positive, upbeat and full of laughter, this book will help you: *Develop your self-esteem at home and work *Change negative self-beliefs *Be true to yourself *Be your own best friend

Tip #32: Look in the Mirror

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