What heart-throbbing love brings with it are all just passengers on the same ship.

Relationships

<ul><li>The process of healing begins when we open our hearts and listen empathetically.</li><li>Rather than trying to improve someone, just be a mirror, reflecting them without judgement.</li></ul>

Listening is an Act of Love

Do not complain someone has not accommodated your every desire. The real problem may be your expectation that others must adapt you. The person who always adapts to you? There is no such saint in the world.

Dealing with Dissapointment

Are you suffering from anxiety?Try prioritizing your worries by writing them down.

Anxiety

There is always a gap between what you know and how you act.

Knowledge vs Action

Emotions are like uninvited guests. They come whenever they want to, and leave once you acknowledge their presence. Although emotions are born inside of you, don't assume that they belong to you. That is why they rarely listen to you.

The Art of Letting Go

When someone is praised greatly, two beats later the criticism start.

Praise and Criticism

<ul><li>Be good to yourself first, then to others.</li><li>What you feeling is not something that should just be ignored, but something very significant.</li><li>When you care yourself first, the world will also find you worthy of care.</li><li>One of our common mistake is to compare how we feel inside with how our friends appear outside.</li></ul>

Don't be Too Good

<ul><li>Because each person's situation is different, it's difficult to draw any firm conclusions.</li><li>Don't let your difficult past define who you are today. If you do, you will live your whole life as a victim of the past.</li></ul>

Your Existence is Already Enough

<ul><li>There are many aspects of life that we can not control.</li><li>Children want to admire their parents. You won't win their admiration by being overprotective.</li></ul>

Parents

Instead of settling for the vague hope that things will be okay if you just try harder next time, figure out exactly where you went wrong, and don't repeat the same mistake again.

Did You Fail at a Job Interview?

<ul><li>If you love someone, rather than doing what you think they need, do what they themselves ask you to do.</li><li>With a little planning, you can continue to enjoy your life while looking after someone close to you.</li><li>However close a relationship is, some question are better left unasked.</li></ul>

Parents (2)

Someone's true self can not be known by the things that are easy to judge, like physical appearance, academic degree, job title, etc.

Judgement

Because you have experienced pain, you are able to embrace the pain of others.Because you have made mistakes, you are able to forgive others their mistakes.May your suffering become the seed of compassion.

Experiencing Pain

The opposite of greed is not abstinence but knowing how to be content.

Greed

The reason we think we are better than others is that inferiority still lurks within us. A sense of superiority exists because of a sense of inferiority.

Inferiority and Superiority

<ol><li>When depressing thought comes to you, remember that it is only a single, passing cloud in the big sky of your mind.</li><li>If your depression is triggered by negative comments about you by people who don't know you very well, you should understand that though it sounds like they're talking about you, their words say more about their own negative psychological state than they do about you.</li><li>We have to keep in mind that most thoughts are personal opinions based on our limited experience.</li></ol>

How to Beat Back Depression?

Susan Cain, New York Times bestselling author of Quiet: "The world could surely use a little more love, a little more compassion, and a little more wisdom. In Love for Imperfect Things, Haemin Sunim shows us how to cultivate all three, and to find beauty in the most imperfect of things--including your very own self." A #1 internationally bestselling book of spiritual wisdom about learning to love ourselves, with all our imperfections, by the Buddhist author of The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down Hearing the words "be good to yourself first, then to others" was like being struck by lightning. Many of us respond to the pressures of life by turning inward and ignoring problems, sometimes resulting in anxiety or depression. Others react by working harder at the office, at school, or at home, hoping that this will make ourselves and the people we love happier. But what if being yourself is enough? Just as we are advised on airplanes to take our own oxygen first before helping others, we must first be at peace with ourselves before we can be at peace with the world around us. In this beautiful follow-up to his international bestseller The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, Zen Buddhist monk Haemin Sunim turns his trademark wisdom to the art of self-care, arguing that only by accepting yourself--and the flaws that make you who you are--can you have compassionate and fulfilling relationships with your partner, your family, and your friends. With more than thirty-five full-color illustrations, Love for Imperfect Things will appeal to both your eyes and your heart, and help you learn to love yourself, your life, and everyone in it. When you care for yourself first, the world begins to find you worthy of care.

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Zen Buddhist teacher, bestselling author & founder of the School for Broken Hearts in Seoul.Born in South Korea and educated at Berkeley, Harvard, and Princeton, he received formal monastic training from Haein monastery, South Korea and taught Asian religions at Hampshire College in Massachusetts for seven years.He is one of the most influential Zen monks in the world, with over 1.5 million followers on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. His first book, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down has been translated into more than 35 different languages and sold over four million copies.His second book, Love for Imperfect Things was the number one bestseller of the year 2016 in South Korea and became available in multiple languages in 2019.

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