Irza Fidah's Key Ideas from Love for Imperfect Things
by Haemin Sunim

• There are many aspects of life that we can not control.
• Children want to admire their parents. You won't win their admiration by being overprotective.

• If you love someone, rather than doing what you think they need, do what they themselves ask you to do.
• With a little planning, you can continue to enjoy your life while looking after someone close to you.
• However close a relationship is, some question are better left unasked.

Because you have experienced pain, you are able to embrace the pain of others.

Because you have made mistakes, you are able to forgive others their mistakes.

May your suffering become the seed of compassion.

• The process of healing begins when we open our hearts and listen empathetically.
• Rather than trying to improve someone, just be a mirror, reflecting them without judgement.

What heart-throbbing love brings with it are all just passengers on the same ship.

Do not complain someone has not accommodated your every desire. The real problem may be your expectation that others must adapt you. The person who always adapts to you? There is no such saint in the world.

The reason we think we are better than others is that inferiority still lurks within us. A sense of superiority exists because of a sense of inferiority. 

Someone's true self can not be known by the things that are easy to judge, like physical appearance, academic degree, job title, etc.

Are you suffering from anxiety?

Try prioritizing your worries by writing them down.

Instead of settling for the vague hope that things will be okay if you just try harder next time, figure out exactly where you went wrong, and don't repeat the same mistake again.

1. When depressing thought comes to you, remember that it is only a single, passing cloud in the big sky of your mind.
2. If your depression is triggered by negative comments about you by people who don't know you very well, you should understand that though it sounds like they're talking about you, their words say more about their own negative psychological state than they do about you.
3. We have to keep in mind that most thoughts are personal opinions based on our limited experience.

There is always a gap between what you know and how you act.

Emotions are like uninvited guests. They come whenever they want to, and leave once you acknowledge their presence. Although emotions are born inside of you, don't assume that they belong to you. That is why they rarely listen to you.

When someone is praised greatly, two beats later the criticism start.

The opposite of greed is not abstinence but knowing how to be content.