The cause of our distress

We, as humans, have a lot of expectations, we expect things to work a certain way, to go well, or not, depending on the circumstances. We create this preconceived notion of how things will or should happen. And these expectations seriously taint our perception of performance. If something fails t...

Worry briefly feels good, especially compared to the alternative—doing nothing and just feeling afraid. Worry feels good because it gives us something (rather than nothing) to do. And this makes us feel a little less helpless and out of control.

We may not...

Motives are crucial, but sadly we are very bad at perceiving and interpreting the motives that happened to be involved in the events that most frustrate us.

We usually feel that other adults have something against us, that all the actions they are taking and that frustrate...