Trauma, whether it is the result of something done to you or something you yourself have done, almost always makes it difficult to engage in intimate relationships. after you have experienced something so unspeakble, how do you learn to trust yourself or anyone else again? Or onversely, how can you surrender to an intimate relationship after you have been brutally violated
BESSEL A. VAN DER KOLK
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Trauma shapes us, even our bodies. Dr. van der Kolk digs deep onw how trauma shapes us and how we can rise above it.
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