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5. Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

Key Idea: Listen carefully before expressing your own views.

Example:

  • When a friend is upset, I listen to their feelings without interrupting before I give advice.
  • In a discussion, I make sure I understand what others are saying before I share my own thoughts.

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