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5.Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood

5.Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood

• Most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand. You listen to yourself as you prepared in your mind what you are going to say, the questions you are going to ask, etc. You filter everything you hear through your life experiences, your frame of reference.

  • Listen deeply
  • Understand
  • Reply with full understanding

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