Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

To understand someone you have to listen to them first - you need to see the problem from their perspective first.

Try Empathic Listening - You listen first, then try to understand and ask questions about the thinking process.

"The time to be understood...

• Most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand. You listen to yourself as you prepared in your mind what you are going to say, the questions you are going to ask, etc. You filter everything you hear through your life experiences, your frame of reference.

• Liste...

This habit is about listening to others with empathy and understanding before trying to communicate your own point of view.

It's about putting yourself in someone else's shoes and trying to see things from their perspective. When you seek first to understand, you're more li...