The Desire to Connect

At the core of every human interaction is a deep-seated desire to connect. We all yearn to be seen, heard, and understood. Throughout the day, people make what are called “bids for connection.”

A bid can be verbal, like saying, “Wow, look at that sunset,” or nonverbal, like letting out a sigh.

The way these bids are met—whether with warmth or indifference—significantly impacts the sense of safety and belonging in a relationship.