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The illusion of action

We usually think about the things we desire in such detail, that we become happy enough and we trick ourselves into believing that we have actually done something productive.

So, when we try to act towards our desires, we immediately hit a stone wall of resistance and quickly distract ourselves from the discomfort with some form of momentary pleasure.

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“Happiness leaves no bad after-taste, it is followed by no depressing reaction; it brings no regret, entails no remorse. True happiness is lived over and over again in memory, always with a renewal of the original good; a moment of pleasure may leave a barbed sting, [as] an ever-present source of anguish.”

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The struggle with anticipation

The anticipation of an event is almost all the time more emotionally powerful than the actual event (in good situations and in bad ones as well).

The panic of talking with your superior about a raise is paralyzing and can last months. But once you convince yourself to do it, it’s over before you know it. The thrill of reaching a goal can become obsessive. But right after you do it, you’re bored and in search of something else.

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Anything worth doing is going to suck at the beginning. Anything worth doing is meant to require pain and sacrifice.

Most people live for the present moment, so when something starts to feel hard, most people quit. Most people indulge themselves in momentary satisfaction at the expense of a better future.

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This rule states that people feel maxed-out mentally and physically, and so they stop when they are at only 40% of their actual capacity. Going past this 40% capacity is when it becomes uncomfortable.

Thus, SEAL’s mantra, “If it doesn’t suck, we don’t do it.”

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And it’s earned by actually succeeding, not by wishing and thinking about success.

True confidence emerges when you regularly push-through things that are hard. The longer you sit with the boredom, pain, and discomfort, the more confident and successful you will be.

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Our minds can deceive us so much so that the idea of something becomes more satisfying than the thing itself. And that's why we stop at the idea, before even transforming it into reality.

It’s easy to dream. But that’s where most people stop. And the very act of dreaming stops us from achieving our dreams.

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Do something and don’t stop until it’s complete, no matter how long it takes.

Your goal is to learn how to accomplish hard things without repeatedly distracting yourself. Develop pleasure in experiencing internal conflict and sitting with it.

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If you want to remain mediocre at something forever, keep it to yourself

If you want to become extremely successful, then openly share your dreams with your loved ones. Friends and family will also hold you accountable to your dreams and goals if they see you not making progress.

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Pull-ups are a great way to test your strength-to-weight ratio and build your core and upper-body power.

They require a simple overhead bar as equipment, which is easily available.

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Bad Advice From Professional Advisors

There are advisors for everything: fashion, investment, career, relationship, nutrition and spirituality, all with best intentions. And professional advisors commit an unintended mistake of being too cautious with their clients choices, and are significantly more risk-averse due to many factors.

To off-set accountability, or because of not being in the best interests of the client (due to factors such as envy), many advisors give more weightage to the negative aspects, rather than focusing on the potential benefits.

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