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How to Deal With Rejection: A Science-Based Approach

Experiencing Rejection

Experiencing Rejection

For entrepreneurs, the word ‘Yes’ is an exception, not the rule. The small business landscape, where new startups are coming and going, it is common to hear rejection, with investors not interested in your product/service, or a potential customer shunning your product.

But when our goals and dreams are at stake, hearing the word ‘no’ actually hurts.

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About uncertainty
About uncertainty

Most of us are quite addicted to a degree of certainty of all kinds, as this is what makes us feel safe. And now we all know nothing compares to feelings such as safety and control.

When faced with uncertainty, on the other hand, we tend to make irrational decisions, due to sheer fear.

Stepping in the unknown

While it can be quite scary, stepping out in the unknown is necessary every now and then.

In order to push your limits, you should consider taking up new challenges that will not only make you experience fear, but most probably also later success into dealing with new and stressful situations. Furthermore, your brain will get trained to form new connections, which can only prove beneficial in the long run.

Train your mind to defeat uncertainty

Recent research has shown that uncertainty scares people even more than knowing that things are going to actually end up badly.

Therefore, in order to be mentally prepared to beat uncertainty, what better way than just imagining the worst case scenario? If it turns out badly, you will at least not be taken by surprise and, if it turns out well, you will be happy.

Fixed Vs Growth Mindset
Fixed Vs Growth Mindset
  • A fixed or static mindset is a terrible disadvantage as life is a constant flux. Life’s challenges keep on coming and difficult situations and failure are all part of it. Being rigid will only make things worse and add unnecessary complications.
  • A growth mindset has the advantage of being adaptive and trainable, able to build the skills required to handle the obstacles and move ahead in life. A growth mindset learns from failure and makes corrections, instead of being bogged down.
Different viewpoints

People who lose their jobs can either dust themselves up and move forward in their next amazing adventure, or can sulk at home and not get hired due to their negative mindset. In both cases, the situation is exactly the same, but the perspective makes all the difference.

Focus On The Good

We cannot let our mind, which has a limited bandwidth of focus and willpower in a day, get tangled in the unimportant and trivial.

A simple hack of taking your focus away from the bad things in life and being grateful for the good things can work wonders to your mind and your life experience. Always try to find the good even in the bad. Create a happiness journal which documents your good life.

Rejection

Rejection and failure and disappointment are a regular feature of ordinary life, no matter how successful someone may be. 

Any set of circumstances in which one reaches out for something: acceptance, approval, the good opinion of friends and family—the good opinion of anyone at all-- there is the risk and, indeed, the certainty of rejection from time to time.

Keep the odds in mind
Know ahead of time what the chances are of a particular effort for being successful. 

If the odds are long, that is not a reason for not trying; it is a reason not to be discouraged by failure.

For instance, sending in a resume in response to an advertised job has been studied. Approximately two percent receive a response. That is not an argument for giving up. It is a matter of the odds. Sending in a couple of hundred resumes shifts the odds in your favor. 

Keep more than one iron in the fire

Having a manuscript rejected by one publishing house is less devastating if that book is being considered at the same time somewhere else.

An unsuccessful job interview does not feel so bad if another one is scheduled for tomorrow.