Let Go of Control

We cannot even understand ourselves, so it is futile to think that we can fully understand other people.

• Normally, we would not do something inconsistent with our values and goals, so we cannot demand others to fulfill our expectations if it is not consistent with th...

Millions of us fiercely defend our right to make “free” choices, while we ignore how those choices are manipulated upstream by menus we didn’t choose in the first place.

When people are given a menu of choices, they rarely ask: 

• “what’s not on the menu?” 
• “why am I being ...

A big cause of stress comes from trying to control things that you can’t. And a distraction due to lack of control turns into an excuse, guilt, and credit. People stay distracted, mostly with things that they cannot control, lying to themselves and others that it is the outside circumstances that...