Finding peace, especially after emotional pain

Prioritize activities that nourish your body and soul. This might include:

• Journaling to express your thoughts and emotions
• Engaging in physical activities like yoga, walking, or dancing, which help release tension
• Eating well, resting, and treating your body kindly

Try creating new, positive experiences in your life. This could be in the form of learning something new, pursuing a hobby you love, or connecting with friends and family who uplift you. These new memories will help you feel less attached to the past.

If watching your ex’s actions is hurting you, consider creating some distance. This might mean muting or unfollowing him on social media, or avoiding situations that trigger painful thoughts.

If thoughts of your ex consume you, gently redirect your focus. It takes time, but try to remind yourself that your healing is more important than replaying past events. You can say something like, “I’m choosing peace today.”

Whether it's friends, family, or even music and books that uplift you, filling your environment with positive energy can gradually shift your mindset. Spend time with people who support and value you.

Sometimes, talking with a therapist can help you navigate through unresolved emotions, providing you with tools and coping strategies to find peace.

This is not about excusing your ex's behavior, but about releasing the hold it has on your life. By forgiving the situation—both your ex and yourself—you can free yourself from the lingering emotional pain.