There’s a Price to Pay for Emotional Validation
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To wean off the dependence on other people’s validation, we need to ask ourselves the following:
We will continue to seek the help of other people to get overcome difficult times, and that's ok. But we shouldn’t let that overpower our ability to think for ourselves.
There is great ease in knowing that your life reflects what’s most important to you.
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