Suppressing Emotions Means they Often Slip Out in Other Ways
- We assume that suppressing our emotions avoids pain, but that is only in the moment, and the long-term impact is much worse.
- Santos uses a gas light metaphor - when the gas light comes on, there is the momentary pain of stopping to fill up, but that is better than ignoring it and running out of gas on the highway.
- Emotions work like this too. If we notice anxiety and allow it to move through us, then the undercurrent won't follow us, and spill out when we say something mean later on.
- Evidence suggests that parents can take stress and emotion home and have it come out at their kids later.
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