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The Past Isn't Objective: Your "Story" Is Your Responsibility
Mental Strength For Revisiting The Past
One can change the story of one’s past including what it meant. New lessons can be learned by revisiting the past in an objective manner, without guilt, remorse or any grudge.
Becoming emotionally and mentally tough makes us face our past with courage, and helps us change the meaning of our often traumatic past.
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Telling our origin story
Stories of origin come in many forms - how we became part of an organization, or how we emerged as a new person after a crisis.
However, we seldom examine what we include a...
Leadership origin stories
Research found four dominant themes of origin stories among leaders: being, engaging, performing, and accepting.
These themes act as lenses, contributing to how leaders see themselves.
The "being" leadership story
Leaders who use this lens always thought of themselves as leaders. They admit to having a natural call to leadership that started in childhood.
In current leadership, people who use this lens often note personal qualities such as confidence, optimism, and natural leadership styles.
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The perception of time
Although some physicists would argue against the existence of time, we all do have a perception of time that reflects the reality of our lives on Earth.
False pasts
Most of us forget more than we remember. We change memories to make sense of what has happened in our lives. When we then recall a memory, we reconstruct the events in our minds and even shape them to fit in with any new information.
Understand the future
Many of us think of our past as a kind of a video library where we can look at records of our lives. If memories were fixed like videotapes, you would find it difficult to imagine a new situation.
It is our past memories that help us imagine a future, and to preview future events. This skill of using the past to predict the future helps us try out different hypothetical scenarios before we commit.
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We use our memories to imagine the future
We predict what the future will look like by using our memories. This is how actions we do repeatedly become routine. For example, you have an ideas of what your day will look like at work tomorrow based on what your day was like today, and all the other days you’ve spent working.
But memory also helps people predict what it will be like to do things they haven’t done before.
Past and future for amnesia patients
An evidence that memory and imagining the future might go hand in hand comes from research related to amnesia patients. Studies show that when they lose their pasts, it seems they lose their futures as well.
Functional MRI scans made possible for researchers to discover that many of the same brain structures are involved in both remembering and forecasting.