If suffering is inevitable, if our problems in life are un- avoidable, then the question we should be asking is not "How do I stop suffering?" but "Why am I suffering-for what purpose?"The nature of our problems determines the quality of our lives.People may perceive that they feel lonely. But when they ask themselves why they feel lonely, they tend to come up with a way to blame others everyone else is mean, or no one is cool or smart enough to understand them and thus they further avoid their problem instead of seeking to solve. We get control of problem based on how we choose, think,measure

Suffering Is Inevitable

Author says; "my lack of confidence compounds, unconfidence about my sounding unconfident making me more unconfirndent. That fucking feedback Loop from hell."The deeper the pain, the more helpless we feel against our problems.The truth is that there's no such thing as a personal problem. If you've got a problem, chances are millions of other people have had it in the past, have it now, and are going to have it in the future. Likely people you know too. That doesn't minimize the problem or mean that it shouldn't hurt. It doesn't mean a victim.

Rewind

Understand that;"If you really want to accomplish something but don't feel motivated or inspired, then you're assume you're screwed."Action --> Inspiration --> Motivation ✅️If you lack motivation in doing something just "DO SOMETHING", it gives you way to understand to your passions or likeable that you want to put into your life.When small things that iterate daily makes a big change.The gap between success and you is just to do something.

Do Something

What if am wrong: "Am I jealous-and if I am, then why?" "Am I angry?" she right, and I'm just protecting my ego?"

Everyone desires happiness, success, love, and a fulfilling life. It’s easy to dream about these things—they’re inherently enjoyable and universally appealing. But the real question isn’t what you want in life; it’s what struggles you’re willing to endure to achieve those desires. That willingness, more than ambition or talent, determines your success and fulfillment. The same is true for relationships. A meaningful connection requires enduring tough conversations, heartbreaks, and emotional ups and downs. In the end what defines you isn’t what you want but what you’re willing to suffer for.

Struggle Is Sweet

The solution is to stop obsessing over always being happy or successful and practice the "subtle art of not giving a fuck." This means choosing what truly matters to care about and letting go of trivial worries. By accepting pain, failure, and discomfort as inevitable parts of life, we break the cycle of negativity and find peace and fulfillment. Pursuing happiness or perfection often makes us more unhappy, but embracing life’s struggles leads to genuine growth.

Feedback Loop from Hell,

Growth is endless iterative process from going wrong to slightly less wrong and then less wrong to again less wrong than that, we are always in the process of approaching truth and perfection without actually ever reaching them.Many people become so obsessed with being "right" about their life's that they never end up actually living it.Being wrong opens up to the possibility of change. Being wrong brings the opportunity of growth.The opness to being wrong must exist for any real change is growth to take place.

Your Wrong About Everything

Often the only difference between a problem being painful or powerful is a sense that we chose it and that we are responsible for it. blaming others means pointing fingers, but taking responsibility means owning your reactions and choices. Others might cause your problems, but only you can control how you feel about them. You decide how to see, react to, and measure your experiences.Taking responsibility always important that is called real learning, blaming others simply is hurting yourself.Example as genetics is not their fault but it's still their responsibility.

You Are Always Choosing

Our brain is always trying to make sense of our current situation based on what we already believe and have already experienced. Every new piece of informa- tion is measured against the values and conclusions we already have. As a result, our brain is always biased toward what we feel to be true'in that moment.the more you try to be certain about something, the more uncertain and insecure you will feel.The more you embrace being uncertain and not knowing, the more comfortable you will feel in knowing what you don't know.Somethings that are uncertain and threatening are avoided by us.

Believe Is Uncertain

The world constantly tells you that a better life comes from more -more stuff, more status, more achievements. But this mentality is harmful to your mental health. It leads overattachment to superficial things and a never-ending chase for happiness. The key to a good life is not about giving a fuck about more, but about giving a fuck about less. Focus on what's truly important, immediate, and authentic. Social media makes you feel inadequate compared to others.

Don't Loop

The point isn't to get away from the shit. The point is to find the shit you enjoy dealing with.If there is nothing to fuck with then mind automatically gives fucks about meaning less things.Choosing what's important and what's is not.This book will teach you to turn your pain into a tool and your problems slightly into better problems. That is a real progress. Think of it Some guide to suffer for meaningful problems.

To Many Fucks

Relying on happiness as a goal often backfires because emotions are fleeting. What brings joy today loses its charm tomorrow, as we constantly crave more—a new house, relationship, or pay raise. This endless pursuit leaves us feeling as we started: unfulfilled. True contentment lies not in chasing fleeting emotions but in finding meaning beyond them.Fleeting: is short-lived or temporary.

Emotions Are Overrated

To become truly great at something, you have to dedicate shit-tons of time and energy to it.This constant steam of unrealistic media dogpiles onto our existing feelings of insecurity, by overexposing us to the unrealistic standards we fail to live up to.Technology has solved old economic problems by giving us new physchologies problems. The internet has not just open sourced information; it also open sourced insecurity, self-doubt and shame.You will have a growing appreciation for life's basic experiences such things as helping people, reading a good book, laughing with some one

Standing Against Whole Doesn't Work

There are certain comforts that comes with knowing hiw you fit into this world. Anything that shakes up that comforts even if it could potentially make your life better is inherently scary.

In poker, only consistent best choices can make a player win the game than players with best cards.

Poker lesson

The true measurement of self worth is not how a person feels about her positive experiences but rather how she feels about her negative experiences.People whos thoughts are highly upon them are generally performed better and have caused by fewer problems

Pain Is Sweet

Don’t try to be extraordinary or overly unique. Instead, focus on simple, broad roles like being a student, partner, or friend. When you define yourself narrowly or as something rare, it makes you feel more vulnerable to challenges. Choosing a simple, ordinary identity helps you feel more stable and less threatened by life’s difficulties.

Buddhism teaches that your sense of self is just a mental creation, not something real. Holding on to this idea of "you" and the ways you define yourself only limits you. Letting go of these attachments frees you. In a way, it’s like saying Buddhism encourages you to stop worrying so much about yourself.

There in two ways;1. I'm awesome and the rest of you all suck, so i deserve special treatment.2. I suck and the rest of you are all awesome, so I deserve a special treatment.These both statements are opposite mindsets, but the same selfish ness creamy core in the middle.The more we see opinions that differ from ours, the more upset we get that those opinions exist. The easier our lives become, the more we feel we deserve even better.

Entitlements

Happiness comes from solving problems. The keyword here is "solving". If you're are avoiding your problems or feel like you don't have any problems, then you're going to make yourself miserable. If you feel like you have problems that you can't solve, you like wise make yourself miserable. The secret sauce here is in the solving the problems, not in not having problems on the first place.

👌

All catchy things i catched in this book.

#1 New York Times BestsellerOver 10 million copies soldIn this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

Understand yourself and those around you.

psychology

Psychology

mindfulness

Mindfulness

strategy

Strategy

mentalhealth

Mental Health

books

Books

Mark Manson (born 1984) is a professional blogger, entrepreneur, and former dating coach. Since 2007, he's been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries. He regularly writes and updates his blog at: www.markmanson.net

QUESTION YOURSELF

Similar ideas

Powerful questions to build accountability

5 key questions for setting priorities

RUBEUS HAGRID