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Relationship Advice From Counter-Terrorism Experts

According to leading counter-terrorism experts, the same methods that aid communication and co-operation with terrorists and criminal suspects can be applied at home and work to solve relationship issues.

As people turn hostile, and the conversation gets harder, the techniques usually used for gaining the trust and co-operation of violent criminals start to work on our loved ones.

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Improve your relationships – with advice from counter-terrorism experts

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Forming A Connection

With the help of the right communication, attitude and gestures, a rapport can be formed with the other person (like a teenager or a spouse).
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Reverse Psychology

The more we push someone to do something, the more they resist and rebel.
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The Interrogator Type

The successful interrogator who is looking to navigate a relationship minefield needs to know himself very well, and ‘sync’ it with the personality type of the other person and be able to do a verbal ballet dance, while staying nimble and flexible.

Communication Styles

Whether it is a teenager, a boss, or a bank robber, one has to understand the communication style, quirks and language that is used, usually in these four major types: