By lying to ourselves we mortgage our long-term needs in order to fulfill our short-term desires. Therefore, one could say personal growth is merely the process of learning to lie to oneself less. - Mark Manson
MORE IDEAS FROM THE ARTICLE
- If I had more time, I would do X.
- If I say or do X, people will think I’m stupid.
- If I just say or do X, then that person will finally change.
- Everything is great/Everything sucks.
- There’s something inherently wrong or different about me.
- I would change, but I can’t because of X.
- I can’t live without X.
- I know what I’m doing.
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