The ordinary in extraordinary

The physical evidence of a life well-lived can be a source of pride rather than shame. We don't have to hide the white hair, lined skin, scars, or extra pounds. They can be seen as signs that you persist.

When we expect perfection from everyone, including ourselves, we not only discount much of what is beautiful but create an unrealistic, restrictive, and cruel world where people's flaws are highlighted. Instead, we should highlight the beauty of what we do have, flaws and all, rather than always grasping for more.

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The beautiful mess effect

We don't expect other people to be perfect but appreciate when people show their vulnerabilities and admit errors. Yet, we're afraid to expose our own shortcomings.

This is known as "the beautiful mess effect." We see other people's honesty about their flaws as positive, and our own as problematic. Other people's flaws function more like an instructive tale as the distance gives us perspective.

Things fall apart for everyone. If you're wise, you can be resourceful and use the scraps, patch yourself up, and keep going.

Professor Brené Brown states that "vulnerability is courage in you and inadequacy in me." Brown sees the imperfections in people as gifts to be worked with, not embarrassments to be hidden.

According to Zen master Basho, the ordinary mind has no fabrications, no biased value judgments.

That is to say, the experiences you have and the person you already are, suffice. You may occasionally need repairs, but that adds to your character and makes you who you are.

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Philosophy of wabi sabi


Wabi-sabi is an elegant philosophy that denotes a more connected way of living—a lifestyle, where we are deeply connected to nature, and thus, better helps us to connect to our truest inner-selves.

Wabi-sabi is a concept that motions us to constantly search for the beauty in imperfection and accept the more natural cycle of life.

It is an elegant reminder that all things including us and life itself, are impermanent, incomplete, and imperfect. Perfection, then, is impossible and impermanence is the only way.

Matcha

More and more people are nowadays consuming matcha for both its herbal flavor and health benefits.

Matcha became known in the 11th century when Buddhist monks started using it in order to stay awake throughout the night. In America, it was actress Gwyneth Paltrow who advertised its miraculous effects. In regards to its origins, the tea comes from the camellia sinensis plant, cultivated for the first time in China. While the highest quality matcha, called ceremonial grade, was once reserved for royalty, everyday matcha, also known as culinary grade, is currently used for cooking.

The disease of "What if"

It’s human nature to linger on feelings of regret. We look back and think that missed opportunities(real or not) could have set us on a different, possibly more rewarding path. Unchecked, these emotions become overwhelming sources of stress and anxiety.

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