Our parents are connected to us not by choice, but by history and biology. We are physically and emotionally intertwined with them in extremely intricate ways and do not share a similar relationship with anyone else.
Outside our families, we assume people and other relatives are normal, but maybe everyone is like that and we never got to know the other families in such detail.
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