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Remington O.
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When technology creates more opportunities
Communication technologies cannot reproduce the physical touch. It is also not suited for seeing how a partner treats other people.
However, studies show that the technological shift gives couples more opportunities to address potentially charged subjects and reduce idealization. Living apart over a long period gives some couples tools that help them deal with future conflicts.
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