"Look on the bright side." Amid a pandemic and widespread social unrest, experts caution us against phrases like these that are not only unhelpful but also toxic.
While cultivating a positive mindset is a good coping mechanism, putting a positive spin as the only way to cope is harmful. It's like forcing more ice cream than you can eat with the hope that you will feel even better.
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Spreading toxic positivity can cause problems in our lives, may it be personal, romantic, or at work.
We may have good intentions as to why we shy away from opening up with other people but it will come off as being dishonest and could put a strain on your relationship and will provide only mistrust.
It is important that we become completely conscious of how we react to things and when to react. Being able to feel negative emotions is normal and should be normalized. Here are ways we can prevent the spread of toxic positivity:
Having a safe space to share and connect with someone is important so that we don't completely dwell on negativity.
Suppressing or avoiding our difficult emotions is not healthy or helpful.
Doing this impairs our capacity to deal with the world as it is, not as we wish it to be. And this leads to lower levels of resilience, lower levels of wellbeing, and higher levels of depression and anxiety.
An important way of dealing with a difficult emotion is to label it effectively.
Labeling your emotions more accurately helps you understand the cause of those emotions and triggers your ability to set goals and to make real concrete changes.
When someone is going through a hard time, insisting they stay strong is ineffective.
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Seeking out people who draw out the positive side only can make you feel alone in your moments of vulnerability.
The relationship becomes a performance of happiness and creates a wedge between you.
Be aware of how your friends react to your sunny attitude. If it makes them perk up, you are doing good.
However, if your encouragement makes them withdraw, your positivity might be misplaced.
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