Confidence vs Arrogance

• Allows for a more personal, customized mode of thinking and application.
• A key to doing any sort of systemic inquiry.
• Even though it does take far more mental energy to work in this mode, the results can be quite staggering.
• A new and innovative way of thinking.

Identify the Problem

What is something that I want to change in my life?

Deconstruct the Problem

What are the causes of my problems? How does it affect my life?

Solve the Problem

Start creating your new framework. You could think of multiple ways to achieve your goals easily.

• A person who judges and criticizes another person for doing something, even though this person does that very same thing repeatedly and doesn’t see an issue with it when they’re the ones doing it.
• Treating similar employees differently when they do the same thing, by punishing one and rewarding the other, even though there is no proper, valid reason.

• Using double standards intentionally involves an informed, conscious decision to do so and happens mostly when a person thinks that the double standards could help them achieve some goal (helping someone that they favor, hurting someone that they dislike etc.)
• Using double standards unintentionally means a person fails to acknowledge the double standard, and is generally driven by some motivation, often emotional in nature.

We can change our emotional state by focusing on our physiology rather than our emotions. Using the following tricks can give you energy and an emotional boost to stay productive.

• Put on some upbeat music.
• Stand up and stretch. Try to reach the ceiling. Get on your tippy-toes.
• Take several deep breaths. Oxygenating the blood make you more alert and awake.
• Get your body moving. The more vigorous you can move, the better. Go for a run, a bicycle ride, or simply a walk outdoors. If you do it for long enough, your brain will release endorphins that elevate your mood.
• Focus on the positive. Think positive thoughts. Give thanks for what you have rather than complaining about what you don't.

For many people the need to be a knower is caused by shame and even trauma. Being the knower can get people out of difficult situations, and it’s easy to believe that being a knower is the only value we bring to relationships and work.

Knowing can also become a culture problem when only some people are valued as knowers.

1. Name the issue. And discuss it in a gentle way:"I’d like for you to work on your curiosity and critical thinking skills."
2. Make learning “curiosity skills” a priority. Don’t assume people aren’t curious because they don’t care. They may not know how to be curious.
3. Acknowledge and reward great questions and statements like “I don’t know, but I’d like to find out”.

External beauty and pleasing appearance often influence our perception, and we believe that this would dictate our experience after we attain it.

The day-to-day experience of living in a particular place cannot be judged by its outer beauty. Our relationships and social health are more important than architecture.

To counteract it the Law of Diminishing Intent, use the LEAP Principle, which states that you should never leave the scene of clarity without taking decisive action.

• Lean into the change with confidence, especially if you are aware of the fact that a change is desirable or necessary.
• Engage with the concept until you have a fair image about it. Work with it until you’ve got a sense of what to do.
• Activate and do something. Don't wait until you feel you have all the information.
• Pounce and do it now. Once you’ve determined your next step, take it.

If you have a goal of writing a book, and you focus on intensity, you may lock yourself away for thirty days, and write eight hours a day. It will require a huge block of dedicated time and lots of motivation.

• Instead of writing a 50,000-word book in thirty days, write 500 words a day for 100 days.
• Instead of going on a two-week fast to get in better shape, eliminate sugar and processed carbs from your diet.
• Instead of waiting to start your business until you've quit your job, set aside three hours a week and start a side gig.

The intensity approach is more dramatic but slow and steady wins the race.

• Get clear on your goal.
• Identify the right behavior. (i.e., a habit).
• Track your progress. Create a recurring task in your task manager to reinforce the habit.
• Enlist an accountability partner. It could be someone who wants to achieve the same goal, a coach, or just a friend who is willing to support you.