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Conversation Killers: Asking For An Outside Perspective

  • You can be conscious of what you type in your emails and phone messages, it pays well to have a large vocabulary at your disposal.
  • If you overuse a word, or say a ‘pet’ word without even realizing it, you may have to break the habit by taking help from a colleague, friend or family member.
  • The person who gets your message, who may be a new friend or an acquaintance, can feel as if you are being sarcastic, or may have misused a word, which they may or may not correct you. They may even think they have missed part of the conversation.
  • Too many fluffy words also drown out the actual conversation. If you go on and on, the message you are trying to convey gets diluted.

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Conversation Killers

Words are like keys that can make or break a conversation. Some words look absolutely okay to us, but can kill a conversation if they sound mechanical or are overused.

Words like Awesome, Right On, Fantastic, Fabulous, if overused, sound fluffy and mechanical, with no warmth or feeling behind them.

Conversation Killers: Asking For An Outside Perspective

  • You can be conscious of what you type in your emails and phone messages, it pays well to have a large vocabulary at your disposal.
  • If you overuse a word, or say a ‘pet’ word without even realizing it, you may have to break the habit by taking help from a colleague, friend or family member.
  • The person who gets your message, who may be a new friend or an acquaintance, can feel as if you are being sarcastic, or may have misused a word, which they may or may not correct you. They may even think they have missed part of the conversation.
  • Too many fluffy words also drown out the actual conversation. If you go on and on, the message you are trying to convey gets diluted.

Sharing Personal Information

  • The more you talk, the more personal information is divulged. Your likes and dislikes, thought patterns, preferences, everything is exposed.
  • It feels good and comforting to talk if the other person is listening, but good communication is never about talking too much.
  • Say less and listen more.

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