We see ‘change’ as the magical answer to everything in life

  • “I just need a change of scenery.”
  • “A new home will make us happier.”
  • “A new relationship will make me feel whole again.”
  • “I feel stuck in my job. I should get a new job.”
  • “I need to change cities because I’m tired of the one I live in.”
  • “I’ll be happy when I change my wardrobe.”


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If You Think "Change" Is The Right Answer To Your Problems, Think Again - Darius Foroux

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