There are two ways in which leaders develop their personal styles:
High self-monitors are naturally able to try on different styles until they find a good fit for themselves. They adapt to the demands of a situation without feeling fake. They care about managing their public image and may mask their vulnerability.
True-to-selfers tend to express what they really think and feel, even when it is counter to situational demands. It may make people question their ability to do the job.
You have to pick one or a few skills and get started on them and over time start to see what strengths emerge. Since you can find your strength and reach your potential through multiple domains, it doesn't matter so much where you start, as long as you follow two heuristics.
The 80/20 method: You can get 80 % proficiency in a subject in about 6 - 12 months.
The 10,000-hour rule: You can become an expert at something if you spend 10,000 hours of deliberate practice on it.
To go from zero to 80% (good enough) requires a different approach than that needed to get from 80% - 99% (world-class). The last 20% also requires a different level of commitment. For instance, Stephen King spent 6 - 8 hours daily for ten years before he succeeded as a commercial writer.
Think of something you want to improve about yourself. How would you categorize the thing you chose: Is it a strength or a weakness?In all likelihood, you chose a weakness. A study from 2016 found that we tend to see weaknesses as more changeable than strengths-which means we're more...