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Symptoms Of Low Self-Esteem And The Root Causes of It

What Causes A Low Self-Esteem

Causes of low self-esteem are often traced back to negative early childhood experiences, such as frequent punishment or neglect, chronic abuse, bullying, and lack of affection.

We form our bottom line (how people treat us) in childhood. Based on the bottom line, we form our "Rules for Living," which are strategies for dealing with life.

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Build lasting self-esteem
  • Use positive affirmations correctly and make them more believable.
  • Identify your competencies and find opportunities that accentuate them.
  • Learn to accept compliments, even if they make you uncomfortable.
  • Eliminate self-criticism and introduce self-compassion.
  • Affirm your real worth.
2 categories of doubt:
  • General doubt: uncertainty over things happening outside of and around you.
  • Self-doubt: uncertainty within yourself, about your own abilities and decisions. 
General doubt can be good when it forces you to think critically. But self-doubt almost always gets in your the way.
Common characteristics of self-doubters:
  • They look for evidence that their abilities aren’t good enough.
  • They hold themselves to impossible standards
  • They overanalyze simple decisions. 
  • They make friends with people who reinforce their self-doubt.
Trick your brain into tearing down self-doubt
  1. Compartmentalize your decisions and don’t look back.
  2. Doubt your doubt.
  3. Shake your head when confronting doubt.
  4. Enforce time limits on your decisions.
Self-Esteem And Self-Worth
Self-Esteem And Self-Worth

Self-esteem is defined as your personal value, the all-embracing sense of self-worth. It is affected by your childhood experiences, genetics and other factors that may be not in your control.

The factors affecting self-esteem that you can manage are: personal circumstances, stamina, energy, thoughts and strength.

Self-Talk And Self-Doubt

How Self-Esteem impacts our daily life:

  • Self-Talk: A constant dialogue that we have with ourselves, where our own mind becomes our enemy, talking us out of doing what can help us grow and learn with many ‘logical’ excuses/reasons.
  • Self-Doubt: If one is robbed out of all the confidence, it is difficult to work towards commitments, or taking calculated risks, as self-doubt and second-guessing create a toxic environment.
The William James Formula For Self-Esteem

According to ‘The Principles Of Psychology’, an 1890 book by William James, known as the father of American psychology, self-worth is based on our actual achievements and our aspirations, as in the equation below:

Self-Esteem = Success/Pretensions.

The equation simply means that if we have more success, we have good self-esteem. The idea is to focus on our strengths, skills and in those areas where we can do something meaningful.