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Symptoms Of Low Self-Esteem And The Root Causes of It

Having Low Self-Esteem: The Consequences

  • You expect people to mistreat you. When people are friendly to you, you can easily mistake it for love and scare them away.
  • It makes you have a lower hand in the relationship. You may bear things in a relationship that you shouldn't stand for.
  • Though you may be very gifted, you may not know how to show it and make it difficult for your employers to appreciate your talents. During a meeting, people with low self-esteem will keep quiet or speak weakly. During daily conversations, they say sorry and maybe too often.
  • It can lead to depression.

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2 categories of doubt:
  • General doubt: uncertainty over things happening outside of and around you.
  • Self-doubt: uncertainty within yourself, about your own abilities and decisions. 
General doubt can be good when it forces you to think critically. But self-doubt almost always gets in your the way.
Common characteristics of self-doubters:
  • They look for evidence that their abilities aren’t good enough.
  • They hold themselves to impossible standards
  • They overanalyze simple decisions. 
  • They make friends with people who reinforce their self-doubt.
Trick your brain into tearing down self-doubt
  1. Compartmentalize your decisions and don’t look back.
  2. Doubt your doubt.
  3. Shake your head when confronting doubt.
  4. Enforce time limits on your decisions.
Build lasting self-esteem
  • Use positive affirmations correctly and make them more believable.
  • Identify your competencies and find opportunities that accentuate them.
  • Learn to accept compliments, even if they make you uncomfortable.
  • Eliminate self-criticism and introduce self-compassion.
  • Affirm your real worth.
Self-Esteem And Self-Worth
Self-Esteem And Self-Worth

Self-esteem is defined as your personal value, the all-embracing sense of self-worth. It is affected by your childhood experiences, genetics and other factors that may be not in your control.

The factors affecting self-esteem that you can manage are: personal circumstances, stamina, energy, thoughts and strength.

Self-Talk And Self-Doubt

How Self-Esteem impacts our daily life:

  • Self-Talk: A constant dialogue that we have with ourselves, where our own mind becomes our enemy, talking us out of doing what can help us grow and learn with many ‘logical’ excuses/reasons.
  • Self-Doubt: If one is robbed out of all the confidence, it is difficult to work towards commitments, or taking calculated risks, as self-doubt and second-guessing create a toxic environment.
The William James Formula For Self-Esteem

According to ‘The Principles Of Psychology’, an 1890 book by William James, known as the father of American psychology, self-worth is based on our actual achievements and our aspirations, as in the equation below:

Self-Esteem = Success/Pretensions.

The equation simply means that if we have more success, we have good self-esteem. The idea is to focus on our strengths, skills and in those areas where we can do something meaningful.