Having Low Self-Esteem: The Consequences

You expect people to mistreat you. When people are friendly to you, you can easily mistake it for love and scare them away.
It makes you have a lower hand in the relationship. You may bear things in a relationship that you shouldn't stand for.
Though you may be very gifted, you may not know how to show it and make it difficult for your employers to appreciate your talents. During a meeting, people with low self-esteem will keep quiet or speak weakly. During daily conversations, they say sorry and maybe too often.
It can lead to depression.

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A Lesson On Overcoming Self-Doubt

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The gist: Low self-esteem can grip all of us. And feeling self-doubt is part of being human. Understanding your psychology can help you overcome it. In 1911, a young man by the name of Harry was struggling with low self-esteem. He'd met a woman, Bessie, and they became friends.

Key Ideas

2 categories of doubt:

General doubt: uncertainty over things happening outside of and around you.
Self-doubt: uncertainty within yourself, about your own abilities and decisions.

General doubt can be good when it forces you to think critically. But self-doubt almost always gets in your the way.

Common characteristics of self-doubters:

They look for evidence that their abilities aren’t good enough.
They hold themselves to impossible standards.
They overanalyze simple decisions.
They make friends with people who reinforce their self-doubt.

Trick your brain into tearing down self-doubt

Compartmentalize your decisions and don’t look back.
Doubt your doubt.
Shake your head when confronting doubt.
Enforce time limits on your decisions.

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5 ways to build lasting self-esteem

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Many of us recognize the value of improving our feelings of self-worth. When our self-esteem is higher, we not only feel better about ourselves, we are more resilient as well. Brain scan studies demonstrate that when our self-esteem is higher, we are likely to experience common emotional wounds such as rejection and failure as less painful, and bounce back from them more quickly.

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Build lasting self-esteem

Use positive affirmations correctly and make them more believable.
Identify your competencies and find opportunities that accentuate them.
Learn to accept compliments, even if they make you uncomfortable.
Eliminate self-criticism and introduce self-compassion.
Affirm your real worth.

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Improve Your Self-Esteem With The William James Formula

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Psychology defines self-esteem as an individual’s overall sense of self-worth. In this article, you'll learn how to improve it.

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Self-Esteem And Self-Worth

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Self-esteem is defined as your personal value, the all-embracing sense of self-worth. It is affected by your childhood experiences, genetics and other factors that may be not in your control.

The factors affecting self-esteem that you can manage are: personal circumstances, stamina, energy, thoughts and strength.

Self-Talk And Self-Doubt

How Self-Esteem impacts our daily life:

Self-Talk: A constant dialogue that we have with ourselves, where our own mind becomes our enemy, talking us out of doing what can help us grow and learn with many ‘logical’ excuses/reasons.
Self-Doubt: If one is robbed out of all the confidence, it is difficult to work towards commitments, or taking calculated risks, as self-doubt and second-guessing create a toxic environment.

The William James Formula For Self-Esteem

According to ‘The Principles Of Psychology’, an 1890 book by William James, known as the father of American psychology, self-worth is based on our actual achievements and our aspirations, as in the equation below:

Self-Esteem = Success/Pretensions.

The equation simply means that if we have more success, we have good self-esteem. The idea is to focus on our strengths, skills and in those areas where we can do something meaningful.