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How To Stop Being Lazy And Get More Done

Cal Newport on better managing time

  • To-Do lists are useless. Schedule everything.
  • Assume you’re going home at 5:30, then plan your day backwards.
  • Make a plan for the entire week
  • Do very few things, but be awesome at them.
  • Less shallow work, focus on the deep stuff.

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How To Stop Being Lazy And Get More Done

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Cal Newport on better managing time

  • To-Do lists are useless. Schedule everything.
  • Assume you’re going home at 5:30, then plan your day backwards.
  • Make a plan for the entire week
  • Do very few things, but be awesome at them.
  • Less shallow work, focus on the deep stuff.

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