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Strategies to handle difficult people

  • Separate the person from the behavior. It will allow you to identify your own limits and find what aspect of a person's behavior troubles you. "I find you obnoxious" vs. "The idea you suggested does not consider..."
  • Widen your perspective. Ask why you feel this way? What if your feelings are wrong? Could they be feeling insecure around you?
  • Don't react, act. Show a collaborative mindset by discussing the outcomes you both desire. Establish boundaries. Actively listen to the other person.
  • Take the hard road. Despite all your efforts, things may still not work out. Instead of being disappointed, involve the right people for guidance and ideas.

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We are social creatures who desire validation. We feel good when others share our belief system. But we feel dejected when others do not value our inputs, crush our ideas, or ignore what we have to say.

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We view the world and the people in it from a specific paradigm.

How we relate to someone is driven by our personality, expectations, background, and experience. Why we find someone difficult is then a very personal affair.

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