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The stumbling blocks preventing you from challenging perfectionism

Adopting such a rigid commitment that if you fail, you'll quit.
Beginning with a goal that's too hard or too big.
Going at your goal alone without accepting help.
Dealing with the fear and shame of giving up your persona.
Worsening mental difficulties such as OCD or an eating disorder.

The first two potential stumbling blocks can be mastered by changing the goal of commitment to that of intention. The third stumbling block can be conquered by reflecting on the instances where it would have been good to ask for help and considering scenarios with what you could've said or done. Journaling is the best way to overcome the fourth stumbling block. The fifth block is a reminder that you might need to put this work of halt for a time while attending to anxiety or another disorder.

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