We must learn to recognize and identify the cognitive action of always being biased.
Our prior beliefs are put into everything we see, read or hear, and we make matters worse by only reading our own viewpoint, rejecting something that is not agreeing with our existing framework of information.
One needs to jump to the other side of the shore and develop a good understanding of the counter beliefs and things we do not expose ourselves with.
Having a mild disagreement is okay if you are talking to someone who is outside your intellectual social circle, as long as you enlighten yourself with a viewpoint not seen before.
Logic is not the best strategy for winning a debate. Any logic has plenty of counter logic waiting to pounce on it.
A simple NO can wash over:
Any overwhelming facts and proof explaining why one is right.
Any valid counterpoints to the other person’s arguments.
We falsely assume that our explanation is bulletproof, and forget that the other person has a choice to not agree with us. We could say the sun exists, and the earth is round, but the other person can simply say ‘No’.
Instead of trying to persuade someone that they are wrong, try to create a different premise. You can debate to learn something, or to see the other person’s viewpoint, understanding why they disagree. You can also politely put on the table what you think about the topic, not waiting for them to change their mind.
The fun part is when you are not trying to win an argument, you usually do.
An argument for not trying to please people: You should never work on something with the sole purpose of adding it to your resume.
The benefit of this outlook is it makes you highly independent. Satisfaction comes from within, not from other's opinions of you.
The downside is that you need to deal with people. Trying not to please people might isolate you and your ideas. You might need to get a degree if your dream job requires a degree, even if the degree itself is worthless.