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Scaling down: on seeking fewer goals, relationships, and experiences
Benefiting of scaling down your goals
Research suggests that fewer goals are better. When we start a goal, feeling that it's doable is important. The compound effect of fewer goals is more powerful because it leads to outsized achievements.
When we read inspirational posts, we may feel inspired to expand our goals and achieve more - learning to speak Mandarin, playing the guitar, or starting a blog. It can result in an overwhelming list of unattainable goals.
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