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Benefiting of scaling down your goals

Benefiting of scaling down your goals

Research suggests that fewer goals are better. When we start a goal, feeling that it's doable is important. The compound effect of fewer goals is more powerful because it leads to outsized achievements.

When we read inspirational posts, we may feel inspired to expand our goals and achieve more - learning to speak Mandarin, playing the guitar, or starting a blog. It can result in an overwhelming list of unattainable goals.

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Less is more

Many areas in our lives could benefit from scaling down.

  • Meaningful relationships. Research suggests that satisfying friendships that are reciprocal have a positive impact on our well-being.
  • Meaningful experiences. We spend too much time doing, and don't leave space of being. Instead of attending every event, plan a big adventure for yourself. Instead of eating out every evening, save up for the best restaurant.
  • Other areas. Scale down your consumption by buying less. Scale down your time spent at work so you can see your children grow up.

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