deepstash
Beta
How To Work With Someone You Don't Like
Growth moments: What you gain by not avoiding problems
There are moments you want to run away, but they are often the moments when you should stay and work through the situation. They are your growth moments.
Those who can figure out how to work with difficult people are the ones people want to be around. When you are liked, you gain influence.
7 SAVES
29 READS
SIMILAR ARTICLES & IDEAS:
7
Key Ideas
“The hard choices—what we most fear doing, asking, saying—these are very often exactly what we most need to do.”
Tim Ferriss
What's Holding You Down
Some people allow fears to keep them stuck in their situations. Fear has the ability to keep you stuck and control your mindset.
You can silence it by stating this fear out loud and becoming familiar with the worst-case scenario.
6
Key Ideas
Suffering from the fear of heights
People that have acrophobia have an irrational fear of heights. Many symptoms of acrophobia are shared with other anxiety disorders, such as shaking, sweating, a racing heart, diff...
Challenge your beliefs about heights
People with height phobias think something bad will happen when they are up high. But you are safer than you think and your feared outcome about heights won't really happen.
Ask yourself:
- What do you believe will happen when you expose yourself to your fear?
- How likely do you think it is that this would happen?
- What would be the outcome of it happening? (you might believe a tall building will collapse.)
Once you've answered the questions, start small with the thing you fear and see that the worst doesn't actually happen, or that it is not as bad as you feared.
The cause of acrophobia
- A traumatic or frightening event, such as falling off a ladder could cause a fear of heights because the distressing experience gets paired with heights in the person's memories.
- However, many people can't link their fear to a particular experience.
- Some people that fear heights did not have repeated safe exposure to heights.
- Finally, people with height phobia show subtle differences in their ability to maintain their balance, partly because they have more difficulty integrating perceptual information from their visual system.
5
Key Ideas
The psychology behind money
Money is not a fixed entity. It is a complex of data points, challenges, and opportunities you encounter and have feelings about. Your decisions about money affect your emotions and behavio...
Emotion and money
The most important emotions about money to become aware of are fear, guilt, and shame. Without awareness, these emotions will interfere with your rational thinking.
- Common fears include fear of having too little money, fear of looking foolish, fear of causing envy.
- Guilt is about feeling bad about a negative impact you've had on others. You may feel guilty because you have more than your friends, or are not charitable.
- Shame is feeling troubled when you don't live up to your own values. Shame related to money involves feelings of not having enough money, avoiding thinking about finances, avoiding doing what you're supposed to do with your finances, feeling ignorant, and overspending.
Other emotions that influence your handling of money include envy, greed, and over-excitement.
How mental health influences your finances
Mental health problems can have a significant effect on your finances.
- Excessive use of alcohol leads to poor judgment and inattentiveness to finances.
- Depression can cause a loss of employment. People with depression also lack energy and a sense of purpose.
- People with a mild expression of bipolar disorder can experience states with increased energy, decreased inhibitions, exciting plans, and are overstimulated to spend.
- Adults with ADHD/ADD have the ability to pay intense attention to tasks that really interest them while screening out the tedious or mundane.