Life with an Abuser

Also called "Intimate Partner Violence" always involves an imbalance of power and control.

An abuser uses intimidating, hurtful words to control their partner.

• Calls you names
• Insults you
• Puts you down
• Prevents you from going to work or school
• Want allow you to see friends, family members
• Controls how you spend your money
• Where you can go
• What medicines you take
• What you can wear
• Acts jealous and very possessive
• Constantly accuses you of being unfaithful
• Cf ery angry when drinking or using drugs
• Threatens you with violence or a weapon
• Hits, kicks, shaves, slaps, chokes or otherwise hurts you, the children, or your pets.
• Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your will.

They hold you responsible for their actions, for their violence /violent behaviors and then tells you that you deserve it.

DONT TAKE THE BLAME!