LaNa WeiR's Key Ideas from Family & Friends' Guide to Domestic Violence
by Elaine Weiss

You can know someone for year's even majority of their life and not actually know who they are.

In a lot of domestic cases that seems to be the case.

They live this life of happiness, they create a persona of themselves having everyone else believing their this sweet, loving, kind person. But behind closed doors, they are this evil, scarry, person that not even the love of their life recognizes.

It can take a long time before victims of domestic violence recognizes their situation for what it is. Abuse can leave physical marks and even scars. From bruises to broken bones, go shortness of breath and sometimes even death.

Victims can suffer short and long term emotional and psychological effects, including feelings of confusion or hopelessness, depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

Also called "Intimate Partner Violence" always involves an imbalance of power and control.

An abuser uses intimidating, hurtful words to control their partner.

• Calls you names
• Insults you
• Puts you down
• Prevents you from going to work or school
• Want allow you to see friends, family members
• Controls how you spend your money
• Where you can go
• What medicines you take
• What you can wear
• Acts jealous and very possessive
• Constantly accuses you of being unfaithful
• Cf ery angry when drinking or using drugs
• Threatens you with violence or a weapon
• Hits, kicks, shaves, slaps, chokes or otherwise hurts you, the children, or your pets.
• Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your will.

They hold you responsible for their actions, for their violence /violent behaviors and then tells you that you deserve it.

DONT TAKE THE BLAME!

Your doctor/therapist can diagnose you wrong by not knowing your true nature because are not being honest about being the victim of domestic violence.