The most important thing when it comes to wanting to regain a sense of control within ourselves is that we must practice how to change our focus from the things we are unable to control to the ones that we can.
We have the tendency to focus on the threats and the problems that we've been given but we must remember that for the sake of our emotional wellbeing, our perception of reality is created by the focus of our attention.
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Every single one of us experiences stress on a daily basis. It is the mental and emotional strain that comes from needing to resolve demanding circumstances.
We have the capability to look into the future by anticipating behaviors and studying patterns, unlike any living creature. The power to imagine entire realities is both a curse and a blessing that motivates us and makes us behave in strange ways. But, we are not doomed to be in an eternal state of constant stress.
"Stress is not your enemy. You can take control of it or you can let it control you. The choice is yours".
There is a way for us to be able to use stress as an element for our success. When we intentionally push ourselves outside of our comfort zone and then set days where we rest, our capacity for stress actually increases therefore future difficulties would not seem like a bother, but instead as a fun and thrilling adventure.
This then becomes what's normal to our bodies and therefore creating an environment where we experience less stress because we have control over the stressors.
Our beliefs about stress is also a factor we have to consider. Since we see stress as a negative thing that we must avoid, it's only going to continue to threaten our health instead of perceiving it as something that is a normal part of life.
If we halt from the perception of it as being abnormal and choose to see it in a different light as something that empowers us to do our best and to be our best version of ourselves.
Since the stress that we experience is based on our own perspective of anticipating the next events, we must then understand that every time we anticipate a threatening situation the body releases stress hormones in order for us to prepare and face the threat.
However, if we believe that we have control over the threatening stimulus then we won't need to prepare the survival response that we rely on.
Human beings love to gossip, chatter and jest, but some conversations can be stressful, confusing, and even embarrassing. To avoid conflicts and the avoidable pain it can bring, we tend to dodge a stressful conversation.
The emotional entanglement and the feelings that get stirred up throws most of us out of balance, and we are unable to work harder to improve our handling of the problem, making it worse.
Worry is the cognitive part of anxiety, with it's repetitive and obsessive thought patterns in our mind. Worry is sometimes essential for us to solve problems or take action, provided we are not stuck in a constant state of worry.
Ways to Handle Worry: