Friendships change
If our friendships are going to last a long time, we will have to accept that change will happen, and it won't always be comfortable.
If a friendship is feeling weird, use the concept called the "friendship triangle." The triangle base is positivity, and the two sides are consistency and vulnerability. Look at your friendship through this triangle to see what's off-balance.
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You will go through a lot of different versions of yourself. It can mean that a friend is only there for a certain chapter, and that's OK.
When a friendship ends, it's good to be intentional. State that you want to end the friendship and talk about what that means in practical terms.
If you want a long-lasting friendship, you should not be afraid to ask for what you need.
If you can get in the habit of saying what you need, you can avoid resentment later on.
Look at your friendships through the lens of TME -Time, Money, and Energy.
These are your most valuable resources. Consider how you're spending your TME and who you're giving it to. If you feel drained of these resources, you may have to change the relationship.
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- Most of us haven't been taught how to apologise
- Our efforts tend to be harmful: vague, intrusive, demanding, or full of warnings that can leave the recipient of an apology feeling even worse.
- When the apology is absent or it's a bad apology, it puts a crack in the very foundation of a relationship and can even end it.
- That's why it is critical to get an apology right.
To deepen a friendship, it pays to get vulnerable. To make true friends, you have to share things about yourself. Ask people questions too so that they share about themselves.
Tell people what your passions are, how you spend your free time, what you're looking forward to, and ask them for the same. Studies found that the more people share about themselves, the more they end up liking each other.
Losing someone you thought would always be in your life can be devastating.
But friendship breakups are inevitable, and we need to learn how to deal with them in healthy ways.