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Rafael N.

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"Having someone wonder where you are when you don't come home at night is a very old human need." — Margart Mead

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Making Friends In A New Country

Shifting to a new country comes with a laundry list of challenges, like mastering cultural quirks, finding a decent place to live and of course, making new friends.

It is often our work life that dictates our social life (same story in most metropolitan cities across the world), but one has to venture out and try new things to develop a network of friends apart from our colleagues.

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How do you make friends in a new country?

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  1. Vulnerable - they have low self-esteem and crave affirmation
  2. Grandiose - they have a genuinely overinflated sense of self

A study done by New York University researchers suggests that those who fall under the grandiose type of narcissism are not narcissists at all because their behavior resembles psychopathy and those who fall under the vulnerable type are not true narcissists because they do not seek power or dominance.

Why some narcissists actually hate themselves

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The idea that travel is a catalyst for romance

A 2008 study that surveyed 5,000 flyers found that one in every 50 people said they met the love of their life on a flight.

  • This expectation is regularly reinforced by movies and television, where an in-flight experience changes the character's life.
  • Another is the rise of transformative travel. Vacation is sold as a form of therapy. When planning for a vacation, the anticipation of travelling is especially thrilling for singles to imagine that they may find romance along the way.

The persistent myth of finding love on a plane

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  • Know that you have a right to personal boundaries.
  • Recognize that other people's needs and feelings are not more important than your own.
  • Learn to say no.
  • Identify the actions and behaviors that you find unacceptable.
  • Trust and believe in yourself.

Healthy Personal Boundaries & How to Establish Them

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Friendships change

If our friendships are going to last a long time, we will have to accept that change will happen, and it won't always be comfortable.

If a friendship is feeling weird, use the concept called the "friendship triangle." The triangle base is positivity, and the two sides are consistency and vulnerability. Look at your friendship through this triangle to see what's off-balance.

Friendships Change. Here's How To Deal

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Having a weak circle of friends carries the same risk as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.

Researchers suggest that the core factors in a happy life are the number of friends, the closeness of friends, the closeness of family, and relationships with neighbors and co-workers.

This Is How To Make Friends As An Adult: 5 Secrets Backed By Research - Barking Up The Wrong Tree

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Time is irrelevant to grief

Mourning the loss of a loved one isn't efficient or logical. It is different for each person. Grief can feel better and worse as time goes by.

We can not relegate all our heaviest grieving to specific days of the year. We will be reminded of details about the person at odd times.

The messy, complicated truth about grief |

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Two relationship complaints

The two worst things in a relationship are:

  • The thought of a partner leaving.  
  • The frustration of a partner not sharing their feelings.

If people are ill-equipped to manage the anxiety when a partner doesn't want to share their feelings, they resort to crowding their partner emotionally with 'Talk to me! Tell me how you feel. Share with me.''

You're Not Entitled To Know Other People's Feelings

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The Silent Treatment

In a relationship, a partner uses ‘the silent treatment’ on the other to make them feel hurt, punished and alienated, manipulating their emotions.

Being isolated or ghosted by a partner is a sort of abuse that hurts more than being yelled or shouted at.

The Silent Treatment: A Tactic of Abuse and Control

psychologytoday.com

Online Dating: A History

Online dating didn’t really begin with the advent of the internet.

The need to communicate to other human beings for love, companionship and sex goes back centuries, with each new technology opening up further avenues and fresh ways to reach out.

The History of Online Dating From 1695 to Now

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